7.19.2018

Bleeding, Still Bleeding

In the dream, I’m pregnant, so we drive to the city, circle the block three times before we find the building behind the buildings, bland office with security door, buzzer, intercom demanding my name and appointment time. No protesters. He holds my hand longer than he ever has. Other women grip bags with robes tucked inside, whisper to their drivers—aunts, sisters, roommates, all groggy, annoyed by this inconvenient abortion. Panoramic pictures span the waiting room walls—Philadelphia, San Francisco, Miami: This is where you’ll go without your unwanted children.

In the dream, I have to confess to the counselor that I’ve been to the clinic before, in the spring, when my husband promised he’d get a vasectomy. Six months later, I’ve bought the peas and briefs, and am doing my part for our family. We have three children already, can’t afford another or two or more. And I can’t do this again. Or again. I crawl into the paper gown, my own robe and socks, pull myself up to the mirror over the sink and say I’m doing this to be a better mother to the three of you.

In the dream, the women are all single. One has a thirteen-year-old with Downs Syndrome. Another is sixteen, rail thin. Her mother is waiting. They haven’t told her father—a minister—who thinks they’re on a shopping spree, bonding over belts and shoes. A woman my age—mid-forties—says this was a menopausal surprise. She has raised three kids already. Her ex doesn’t believe this one is his. Her divorce was final last week. One woman, tattoo of stars on her neck, holds a rosary and says God forgives people who ask and repent. I’ll repent for the rest of my life.

In the dream, I fall asleep to the cold creeping up my arm like a spider, the elderly nurse, her lips lined like a web, counts back from ten. I wake, recovered, thick gauze between my legs. I’ve been carved out, hollow again. I call my sister, ask her: What was it like when the raped girl—sixth months gone—told you her baby had fingernails? Did you cry when she said she didn’t care about getting rid of it? Did you wish, for a moment, you’d never been born? Are you still bleeding, these five years later?
Crosses
 
A white cross looms on the highway horizon, the only rest stop for fifty miles. Tiny marble crosses swarm the base—In Memory of All the Unborn Children. At the mouth of the parking lot, a steel donation box demands payment. Behind the bathrooms, bronze statues of Jesus and the thieves carrying their loads, slouching in an infinite circle. A woman and her husband ask me to take their picture—she holds up her hands to Christ, as if to collect his blood.

At Rose Hill, the dead have bought riverside property. Lost branches of family trees abandon the tombs, while the ancient limbs swing along the boulevard, blooming in their Sunday finest. They wait for visitors to sit around the ponds, beside trickling streams, spy marble angels peeking from behind fallen magnolias. Orchestras once played in the bandstand, but no one sings for the hidden dead whose bricked caves carve the hillside.

Knees kneel under black umbrellas, the rain makes mush of the stony narrow avenues. Priestesses swaddle their heads in purple, gold, and green rags, pin pouches at their waists and fill them with feathers. They paint crosses on sealed death-vessel doors, ox-blood on marble and tarnished brass names. The ground regurgitates the dead, so they lay above it in pairs, coupled like serpents on the ark, ash mingling with ash.

We’re bone and blood, motes swirling in the wind. Our memorials prove our faith, bargain for salvation, make shrewd deals with death. But the flesh is shredded when the soul claws itself alive, then dissolves into air. So break my bones and suck the marrow. Wrap my body in cheesecloth. Anoint my hair with oils. Bury me beneath a tree. Let me rot. Don’t weigh me down. Don’t etch crosses on me.